TheThreeRights

The Three Rights

There are 3 groups of Rights. The next, a subgroup of the last, is more civilized and less negative with more understandable, compassionate, and considerate awareness. In order, Natural Rights, Social Rights, and last, Moral Rights.

Natural Rights – All possible unalienable, savage, uncivilized, animal, physical rights that one in nature has to survive in any way, shape, or form (to hate, to love, to cause violence, to have peace, to live, to kill, to cause pain, to feel comfort, to be intolerant, to be open-minded, to be perverse, to be pure, to be a fanatic, to be liberal, to be greedy, to be benevolent).

These rights you have without the interference of any authority above your own self-applied rules, unless subdued, overpowered, conquered naturally by someone stronger. Most always, the most intelligent, adaptive, astute, keen, and cunning will survive, not the physically strong.

Any type of right given in society by a government, as in equality, is artificial since it does not exist in nature.

The survival of animals in nature are the perfect example of Natural Rights.

Example 1: The Donner Party had the unalienable natural rights to cannibalize the dead and dying to survive the unassailable winter.

Example 2: The Neanderthals were physically fit, strong, and big in size to survive their harsh environment, but as the environment changed around them, they were too ignorant, naïve (evian, he he), obstinate, ornery, stubborn, inept, inflexible, and intolerant To Change To Survive –Vincent Dunlap, evolving to survive the changing world. Extinction, death by ignorance was their only right.

Example 3: Slavery. As wrong as it is, as tyrannical as it might sound, slavery and bondage are natural rights to the physically and psychologically stronger, superior, domineering, and overwhelming, devoid of human subspecies (white, black, Asian, Indian, or hybrid) or gender (male/female). The times of Rome are a great example.

Social Rights – All natural rights that do not break any governmental social laws. Social laws are the rules, the group opinions of society to keep a civilization somewhat civilized. A few examples are to not kill, to not thieve, to not physically assault, to not sexually assault to start with.

On The Social Contract

On the Social Contract

Moral Rights – All social rights that do not break moral, ethical, and civilized standards. They are not rights persae, but moral standards followed to make one civilized, moral, ethical, courteous, mannerly, sophisticated, refined psychologically, a Person.

Moral is to be monogamous…

Moral is to be intelligent…

Moral is to put children before Oneself…

Moral is to think before act…

Moral is to be selfless…

Moral is to be compassionate…

Moral is to be humble…

Moral is to doubt…

Moral is to be unassuming…

Moral is to be responsible…

Moral is to be tolerant…

Moral is to be open-minded…

Moral is to be honest…

Moral is to be sensitive of others who deserve it…

Moral is to be modest…

Moral is to be self-conscious…

Moral is to be chivalrous…

Moral is to be respectful to those who deserve…

Moral is to control One’s own feelings, not suppress…

Moral is to never be physical out of anger…

-Vincent Dunlap

Etiquette of A Gentleman Part III

Etiquette of A Gentleman Part III

Whatever the business or personal situation, your most valuable commodity is yourself. Practice all your best marketing techniques to attract interest and create a positive and lasting impression.

Here are some additional tips on how to gain a competitive edge by using etiquette to demonstrate that you are a true gentleman.

Courtesy & Consideration

Don't "kiss and tell"
Discretion, honor and integrity are of paramount importance in developing and maintaining your reputation as a gentleman. Details of your love life should remain private. Similarly, if a colleague has too much to drink at a party, be discreet. Never break a confidence and don't participate in unkind gossip.

Interrupt politely
Etiquette dictates that you should never interrupt, but that's not always practical. Interjecting your comments while someone else is speaking is definitely impolite, unless there is an emergency, or other good and valid reason. If you must interrupt or leave a conversational group, be sure to say, "excuse me" or "I beg your pardon." Being polite means treating other people's situations, opinions and feelings with respect.

Be prudently punctual
It's important to be respectful of people's time. Arrive on time for meetings, business functions and social events. If a meeting is dragging on later in the day than planned, a gent will ask if there are any time conflicts. A true gentleman also recognizes when it's time to leave a party.

Suave Communication

Practice good etiquette
Being courteous and respectful extends to how you handle your oral and written communications. Letters and voicemail messages should show that you are well-mannered and professional. In addition, practice e-mail Netiquette and cell phone etiquette.

Be a gracious guest
Thank the host at a social or business function. At a company party, always seek out and thank the most senior management in attendance, plus your own boss and the party organizers.

Thank others
Send handwritten thank-you notes for any gifts you receive, whether they are from suppliers or clients, or even your great-aunt Martha. Thank your server at lunch, the doorman at your building and your colleague who brings in donuts. Recognizing other people's thoughtfulness demonstrates your good breeding.

Don't be politically incorrect
The difference between a gentleman and a boor is class. Show you have it. Avoid off-color jokes and gossip. A few cheap laughs at someone else's expense will tarnish your image, both socially and professionally.

Practice small talk
Whether you're at a wedding reception or business conference, how you make conversation will boost the impression of your refinement. Charming conversationalists mentally rehearse small talk on a variety of topics, avoiding religion, politics and sex. A gentleman listens attentively, making eye contact, showing interest and graciously drawing other people into a conversation.

Gallantry

Carry a handkerchief
Plan ahead. Have a clean handkerchief in your pocket, especially when you attend a funeral. It's also a great idea to have a hanky handy for a lady friend to dry raindrops or tears.

Share your umbrella
It's very gallant to offer your umbrella to a lady. On a chilly evening or if the air conditioning is high, your wife or date might appreciate the loan of your suit jacket and others will notice your thoughtfulness. However, this gesture may be viewed as patronizing in a business setting, so don't do it for a female colleague unless hypothermia is imminent.

Cough thoughtfully
If you're overcome by a fit of coughing or sneezing, excuse yourself and leave the meeting or dinner table for a few minutes. Return quietly and apologize again as you take your seat.

Pay the bill discreetly
When you invite someone for lunch or dinner, accept the bill discreetly and without fanfare. When you're the guest, you may offer to pay your share or to buy the wine but it is ungentlemanly to argue about who will pay the tab.

Civility & Social Skills

Maintain eye contact
At a party, maintain eye contact with whomever you are speaking with. You may be the most well-mannered man, but if someone feels you're scanning the room for someone more important to talk to, your image will be shattered.

Make introductions
Show your good manners when introducing people by telling them more than each other's names. "Hal, I'd like you to meet Phil Brown, he's a pilot with Delta. Phil, this is Hal Black. He recently returned from the Gulf with the military." Many people have difficulty remembering names, and will appreciate your thoughtful manners if you say "George, you remember Alan, don't you?"

Engage people
Be gracious. Make conversation with those on the sidelines, particularly at business functions. Your good breeding and kindness will be remembered. Invite people to become involved, whether it's in a group discussion at a conference, a baseball game at the company picnic or a conga line at a wedding reception.

Follow the host's lead
At a business dinner or dinner party, don't sit until your host does, and don't begin eating until they have lifted their fork. Wait to drink your wine until your host proposes a toast or takes a sip. Do not smoke until everyone has finished, and then only smoke if it is clearly permitted and once you have asked permission of your tablemates.

Table Manners

Never speak with food in your mouth
No one wants to see what you're chewing or listen to you talk with a mouthful of food. If you're asked something and your mouth is full, signal your apologies and, if your dining partners are refined, they will patiently wait until you're able to reply. Unless there's a valid reason to wolf down your food and bolt from the table, eat slowly and converse with your tablemates.

Don't reach across someone
When dining with others, don't reach over; politely ask someone to pass the bread. When they do, take the tray or basket and offer the passer a piece of bread before taking one. If the bread is in front of you, pass it to the person beside you and, if they are knowledgeable about good etiquette, they will offer it to you before taking their own.

Put down your knife
Unless you're expecting an attack from a pack of marauding wild animals, put down your knife after cutting your food and before eating it. It demonstrates good table manners, slows down the process of eating and allows you more time to showcase your talents as a scintillating conversationalist.

Women & Chivalry

Open the door
In a business context, opening the door for women can be a contentious issue, so don't make it too obvious. If there are men and women in the group, hold the door for everyone. In a social context, a gentleman will always hold the door for a lady. In addition, go around to open the car door and wait there until she is seated.

Retrieve dropped items
When someone drops something, pick it up and hand it back, whether it's a glove, a file folder or a twenty-dollar bill. Make sure you bend at the knees, not from the waist.

Walk beside a lady on the stairs
Never walk behind a woman on the stairway, especially if she's wearing a miniskirt. Walk beside her or slightly ahead of her on the stairs. When exiting a subway station in a crush of people, a gentleman will avert his eyes from the thighs ahead of him. The same principle applies if you are walking on the streets; don't follow any woman you don't know too closely.

Walk on the outside of a sidewalk
This allows your lady to be farther from the traffic. This way, if someone is going to be splashed, it will be you, not her. I know, I know... but that's the price to pay if you want to be a gentleman.

Uncommon courtesy

As author John Bridges says, being a gentleman requires a little logic, a bit of forethought and a great deal of consideration for others.

Etiquette of a Gentleman Part II

Etiquette of a Gentleman Part II

What do James Bond and Cary Grant have in common? They represent the quintessential gentleman. It's what makes them so charming and beloved. They are smooth and suave, and know how to behave in every situation. What do they have that I don't? you must be asking yourself. Nothing, it's just that they read the book on etiquette. Although one might think they're a staple of a bygone era, true gentlemen never go out of style.

Basic Good Manners

Don't flaunt your riches
Nobody likes a braggart. Keep your assets vague if you have to discuss financial matters. You can wear expensive things without blowing your own trumpet.

Never let others see you looking at your watch
When you're amid company, ask for the time or look at your watch only if you're ready to leave right that instant. When others notice you glancing at the time, it can be interpreted as boredom. Be inconspicuous.

Never groom yourself in public
This includes picking your nose, chewing your nails and picking your teeth. These areas should only be ventured in private. Committing these acts overtly is a colossal mark of a lack of class.

Be punctual
Perhaps the greatest sign of respect, which is what a gentleman is all about, is being on time. Having people wait for you is the equivalent of telling them that you don't care about them.

Shake hands firmly
Your handshake should mirror your personality. You want the other person to think of you as someone resolved, concrete and positive. But it shouldn't be a test of your strength; don't hurt them. Your grip should be the same for women.

Apply constant verbal grace
Use "excuse me" or "I beg your pardon" for all occasions. An extension of politeness, you should always use these expressions, whether it's to get someone to move out of your way, to apologize for your upcoming journey to the men's room, or simply to signal your interlocutors that you're about to start a sentence.

Tip well and discreetly
Only tip when it's called for, as opposed to those occasions when it's simply awkward (i.e. hospital nurses or business messenger). When you do tip, don't be cheap. Respect the 15% gratuity for restaurant tabs and nothing less than $10 for a significantly useful maitre d'.

Project high moral values
Even if you know that deep down you're not, appear as if you were virtuous. A real gentleman always comes out of everything smelling like a rose.

Party etiquette

The following tips apply for those occasions when you are venturing out into social events and get-togethers. God forbid you didn't know how to act like the gentleman you are.

Acknowledge your acquaintances
Don't play hide & seek with the people you know, even if you don't feel like talking to them. Bite the bullet, initiate the mandatory greetings, and get it over with.

Address new acquaintances by their title and last name
Doctor and military ranks are important to the people who have these titles. Mr. and Mrs. should be used for the others (if you're unsure about a woman's marital status, use Ms. when addressing her). Wait until they ask you to use their first name before doing so. There's nothing more irritating than someone who uses your first name two minutes after having met you.

Look at your interlocutor
Your attention should always be focused on the person you are talking with. Always look at them when listening as well as when you are in control of the conversation. Again, it's a question of respect.

At dinner, address those on your left and right
Unless it's a frat house keg fest, don't shout across the table -- concentrate on those closest to you. This will keep the proceedings calm and orderly.

Never remove coat or necktie when in company
By keeping your clothes on, you show that you consider the other guests important enough for you to remain fashionably tip-top.

Only talk when you've been formally introduced
Which is why the phrases "Have we met?" or "Have we been introduced?" are so handy. If you feel like speaking to somebody, find a person the two of you have in common and arrange a proper introduction.

Let your social superiors address you first
Unless you are on intimate terms, always let your social superior address you. This may seem archaic, but think of it in modern terms. You see Bill Gates at the party; do you go talk to him? Not unless you want his bodyguard to intervene. It can be clumsy, so arrange an introduction.

Feeling gallant?

You know how to act around the ladies, don't you?

Never smoke in the presence of a lady unless invited to
In this age of political correctness it has almost become a given. While she may not ask you to, make sure you do request her permission.

Remove the cigar from your lips if a lady passes by
This one is pure common sense. It's a security measure as well as an indicator of high regard.

Offer your seat to women
Classics are always fashionable. Some feminists would certainly have a fit, but most women will definitely value the gesture.

Always carry a woman's packages
Let's face it; today's women would probably shoot you a puzzled fleeting look, so at least offer to do so. This lets her know you respect her and are courteous enough to inquire as to her comfort.

Finally, while excessive chivalry is what drove Don Quixote to madness, good manners are never uninvited in this era of fast business and faster relationships. Remember that behaving like a gentleman brings out the lady in every woman.

Etiquette of a Gentleman Part I

Etiquette of a Gentleman Part I

One only needs to take a quick glance around to notice that there are very few true gentlemen remaining among us. In times past, a gentleman was much appreciated and being gentlemanly was a noble thing.

Alas, things have changed in today's society; some for the better and some for the worse. One thing that particularly irks me is the lack of good taste and etiquette most guys are guilty of at the turn of this new millennium.

I'm not saying that men should act like robots and be slaves to etiquette, but some basic good manners will go a long way in helping you during your ascent to the top.

What I've done is compile a quick list of tips that will help turn even the most blundering fool into a proper gentleman. Follow these simple tips and I can assure you that people will perceive you as a man of good breeding and taste, hence a man they wish to associate and conduct business with. Not to mention the fact that the ladies are always quite pleased to meet a real gentleman.

General Etiquette

Always be polite
Even if you don't like someone, there is no need to lower yourself to their level. Be polite and courteous; show that you're the better man.

Do not curse
Swearing is a big no-no. It shows that you don't have the vocabulary to express your thoughts appropriately. Furthermore, it is always very crude and impolite to be vulgar.

Do not speak loudly
When you speak loudly, it raises the stress level among company. It always implies that you can't reason with people and rely on "brute force" to get your point across. It also draws attention -- negative attention.

Do not lose your temper
When you lose your temper, you are showing everyone that you can't control your emotions. If you can't even control yourself, then how can you possibly control anything else? Keep your cool at all times (it won't be easy but it is worth the effort) and people will take positive note of your levelheadedness.

Do not stare
Ogling someone is the equivalent of psychological aggression. You don't want to intimidate people for no reason.

Do not interrupt
Let people finish what they are saying before adding your comments. Interrupting others is a sign of poor etiquette and a lack of social skills. If you want to come across as egotistical, you can do so by constantly interrupting.

Do not spit
A lot of men do this almost subconsciously. Spitting is very crude and not too pretty to look at. Do not spit in public unless you want to look like you were raised in a sewer.

Respect your elders
In fact, you should respect others as you would like them to respect you. I am specifying elders because it seems that today, young men think they know it all. Well, they don't. Just think of yourself five years ago... you're much smarter and experienced today, aren't you? Of course, yet you thought you knew it all five years ago.

Do not laugh at others' mistakes
This is perhaps one of the cruelest things one can do. When you mess up, the last thing you want is for someone not only to bring it to your attention, but to ridicule you on top of that.

Remove your hat and sunglasses indoors
This rule seems to have gone out the window these days. You should remove your headwear upon entering a building. Furthermore, never keep your hat on while at the dinner table. It reflects very poor etiquette…and why must you ask? Think of the hat and glasses as a mask of your true self. Does a lady like a Shady man? The answer is No…so reveal yourself and take off your hat and sunglasses. -VD

Wait for seating before eating
When sitting down for a meal, you should wait until all the guests are properly seated and ready to commence the meal before eating. Everyone should start dining at the same time; this is a subtle but very important rule.

THE Basics of Chivalry

In addition to the aforementioned rules, gentlemen (in training) should follow these additional rules when in the presence of a lady. Chivalry may be on life support, but it is not dead yet. Be one of the few to keep this flame burning for many years to come.

Always open doors
This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there. It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it. Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or anyplace with a door, you should always hold it open. If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.

Put on her coat (and off)
Always help a lady put on her coat or over-garment. Always help her take the over-garment off as well. -VD This is a simple but powerful action.

Help with her seat
If an unaccompanied lady is sitting next to you, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course.

Give up your seat
If a lady arrives at the table and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer yours to her.

Stand at attention
Always stand when a lady enters or exits the room. This rule has been somewhat relaxed, so you can stand upon entrance but remain seated upon exit. Nonetheless, if you can do both, you should.

Give her your arm
When escorting a lady (that you know) to and from social events, you should offer her your arm. This is a little more intimate, but serves well when walking on uneven ground -- especially if she's wearing high heels.

Ask if she needs anything
This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless. When at social events, make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink (or eat, depending on the event). Show her that you care about her comfort and needs.

Gentlemen, if I may call you that, these are the rules of etiquette you should observe in everyday life. Elevate yourself above the rabble and display the mannerisms of a true gentleman. The world will appreciate such a rarity and your career will most definitely benefit from your good manners and savoir-faire.

…If you won't listen to me, how can you tell me how I feel?...

…Who are you to tell me I'm not good enough?...

…All I've ever wanted was a place inside of you… -3 doors down

A Civilized Person...

A Civilized Person…

Heavy is the Heart, that Wields the Sword, for the Burden of the Blood Spilt. –Vincent Dunlap

Shadows of Humanity, Vainness of Society, Ch. 9, Strength and Honor

To be Civilized is to be Moral, Ethical, and Honorable…

I know my title is redundant for in order to be a person you must be civilized, but hey, I needed an intriguing title. A title that would attract a person towards learning the meaning. The word Person necessarily does not stand for Human. Humanity is JUST a genetic displacement, disambiguation from other living organisms. Humanity is NOT a philosophical idea, nor has any philosophical meaning.

            The only thing that separates US from other living organisms is the ability to BE civilized, be PEOPLE when we CHOOSE, over acting as barbaric, savage, uncivilized, HUMAN animals. What we ARE is through Who we ARE, and that is solely dependent on our actions.

To be a Person or an Animal is whether you think or not.

Civilized Human Person – A Civilized Human, a Person takes what is said and analyzes it to know why it is said, instead of emotionally reacting, so one can answer appropriately. A civilized human is polite, well-bred, well-mannered, refined, emotionally self-controlled, organized. A civilized human person uses methodology to solve situations instead of ASSUMPTIONS, brainless, thoughtless guesses that creates arrogance (creating facts with baseless, groundless, unfounded, worthless, bogus, futile, cheap, useless information (sounds like religion to me)).

Civilized Feelings – Love (there is logic to Love), Sympathy, Logical Understanding, Remorse (feeling responsible), Guilt (accepting responsibility), Moderation (tempering, controlling one’s actions), Emotional Self-control, Seriousness, and Sincerity. Why are these civilized? Because they are complex, not simple-minded.

The problem with cultures, is that we think, just because someone is part of a culture, they are civilized. That is ignorant and hypocritical. A culture is strictly defined by the traditions it is made of. Most of ALL cultures out there judge themselves as Evil and Savage because of the cruel and primitive traditions that design the cultures for what they are.

Examples are seeing women is society as second class citizens, secular education (education without religious standards to pervert it) as not a primary importance, enslaving children, viewing material wealth more important than emotional strength, etc…

Actions Dictate, Period!!!

Savage Human Animal – A savage human is untamed, rude, crude, wild, uneducated, brutal, boorish, arrogant, selfish, narrow-minded, short-sighted, violent, bigoted, immoral, unethical, unjust, etcetera…sounds again like religion and ALL religious cultures.

Savage Brainless Feelings – These are primordial emotions based off instinct…Fear, Anger, Disgust, Happiness, Sadness, Surprise, Lust, Rage, all Narcissistic feelings (selfish, self-centered, self-serving, self-absorbed, self-indulgence, and self-deluded hypocrisy).

Animal Emotions...